Do you ever wonder if you would still be friends with someone if you met them for the first time today? I have a couple of friends (and I can think of a couple of family members too!) that I would not pursue a friendship with if I just met them today. Does this mean that I should just stop being friends with these people? In the case of the family members I certainly can't stop being family with them! But, I can stop associating with them.
In my case, one of the people I would like to stop associating with and the other person I can't see ever not associating with. So, it is both ends of the spectrum for me. The funny thing is that the one that I don't mind associating with is the one that gives me the most headaches! I guess when you look at it, I would not trade some of the memories or experiences for anything. Like the saying says, "Rather have loved and lost than never have loved at all.'
But, let's face it. There are people who we meet and somehow get roped into our social circles that we don't really click with. Maybe it is a rash decision to actually write these people out of your life, but then again maybe it isn't.
Having had most of my friends for a very long time, some of them have gone different places in their lives and I suspect that most people have a few friends like this. Do you really want to be friends with the guy who got convicted for breaking and entering? Or the girl who has a drug problem and can't take care of her kids? I know that some people need help and we need to be there for them and so on, but what if that help is rejected time and time again?
Something else to think about.
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